Unexpectedly Expecting - the start of a new story

I knew for sure when I went off coffee.  Me, unable to start my day without a coffee first, coffee-lover, coffee-addict.  And suddenly, ugh, I did not feel like drinking coffee.

The same thing happened when I was pregnant with Emma.    So – surprise – it was happening again and confirmed my growing suspicion.

Unexpectedly Expecting - The Start Of A New Story

Emma was always going to be an only child, we never planned to have another.  Well, now it’s time to rewrite the story.  I’m going to be a mum of two.  Emma’s going to be a big sister – which she’s pretty excited about.  The first thing she said when I told her was that “babies are very difficult to look after because they only cry, they can’t talk and they can’t play.”  She’s got that clear!  She says she’s going to help with the baby and share her toys.  That’s good because there’s no room in our house for more toys!

So nearly five years after my first pregnancy, what’s different?  

  • I’m now 41, with the risks associated with being older – although, so far, everything is fine.
  • I’m better informed, so hopefully won’t feel quite so clueless second time around!  I think I’m less scared than I was, but I’m still a little bit scared.  I don’t know how I’ll feel by the end of the pregnancy, though.  The idea of starting again with nappies and sleepless nights, etc. is somewhat….daunting.
  • This time I’m working.  Well, last time too, but then I was working for myself giving private classes which meant that I had no right to maternity leave or the public health system here.  This time I do have a job, so I will have maternity leave, which has advantages but also means I’ll have to go back to work with a still very young baby (Mexican system is not very generous with maternity leave). 
  • I’m sure I’ll be writing a post sometime soon about my experiences with the Mexican public health system!
  • I have a four-year-old to help me/ worry about/ entertain/ look after/ clean up after/ wear me out/ deal with!  All of those options at any one time.  Perhaps the part about helping me is a bit optimistic… Basically, my opportunities for resting are minimal.
  • I’m sure I’ve felt more tired.  At this stage of the pregnancy first time around I was teaching classes every afternoon as well as in the mornings.  Lately, if I sit down in the afternoon after getting home from work, my eyes start to close and I struggle to stay awake.  But then again, I get up much earlier in the morning.  I really have to make the most of my three weeks of holiday.
  • We still have some baby stuff that we haven’t got rid of, although we did sell a lot of things.  I need to have a sort out and see what we can use and what we will need to get.  The same applies for clothes.
  • I’m worried about varicose veins; they’re already looking and feeling horrible and I still have a long way to go.  If anyone has any suggestions or recommendations, I’d love to hear them.
  • This time we’re having a boy!

I’m now 15 weeks pregnant with, I think, a pretty noticeable bump, although it depends on the time of day.  It’s definitely bigger in the afternoons and evenings!  I only started telling people at work a couple of weeks ago and no one had really noticed anything until I told them.

I’ve been feeling okay so far; at the beginning I did have some slight nausea but it wasn’t too bad.  I worked out that the nausea seemed to come on when I was hungry, so eating something made it go away.  I do get hungry much more often, about every three hours.  In the very early days of the pregnancy it was extremely hot and all I felt like eating were cool fresh things like salad, fruit and lemon sorbet.  All foods I like normally so nothing very odd about that; the strangest thing was going off coffee.   I have substituted my morning coffee for a cup of tea (I still have my supply of English teabags, but they’ll be running out soon!), so I haven’t completely cut out caffeine, but I only have that one cup a day – for some reason I just don’t feel like it later in the day, which is quite unusual but convenient right now!

Unexpectedly Expecting - The Start Of A New Story

We went to the first trimester ultrasound a couple of weeks ago and that’s where we clearly saw it was a boy.  Emma came with us and was fascinated to see her little brother on the screen.  He was moving around all over the place, and at one point appeared to wave at us!

So we are adjusting to the idea of our growing family and feeling excited – along with nervous and worried.  Emma’s even getting impatient; she asked me the other day, “Is the baby coming out soon?”  I told her we still had to wait quite a long time – at least until after Christmas, and she gave a disappointed “Oh”.  For me the time seems to be passing too quickly, weeks are whizzing by, but Emma, with her four-year-old’s perspective, will just have to be patient and wait for the eternity of months to pass.

I love this picture she drew me the other day.  The big person is me (with new shoes, she said). Then she started drawing the very little person next to me and I asked her if it was her.  “No, it’s Baby Bump”, she said. “He’s yours because you’ve got the same shoes!”  Then she started drawing another person above Baby Bump.  “This is me,” she said.  “I’m flying, and I’ve got wings on my shoes and my arms are wings!”  Then she drew a heart for each of us at the top, and flowers in our hair.  I love it!

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  1. Oh wow, how exciting! Congratulations on your pregnancy, and your daughters drawing really is lovely! 😍x

  2. Wow. Congrats. I hope you have an easy pregnancy and look forward to updates! #globalblogging
    tracy www.viewfromthebeachchair.com

  3. Congratulations! It sounds like you are set to go and you have an excited helper by your side!

  4. Firstly! CONGRATULATIONS!!! Secondly, I just love your blog name :) Thirdly, Emma is going to be an amazing big sister!!!! Thanks for sharing your story with us! #globalblogging

  5. Awwww huge congrats. How exciting! Good to hear you are feeling prepared and not too rough this time around.

    Thanks for sharing your special news with the #KCACOLS linky

  6. Huge congratulations. Coffee was one of the first things I went off too, it can't be good for us, though I am now hooked again! #KCACOLS

  7. Congratulations, there is nothing quite like the excitement that comes with having a new baby, at any age, I wish you the very best #satsesh@_karendennis

  8. Congratulations, there is nothing quite like the excitement that comes with having a new baby, at any age, I wish you the very best #satsesh@_karendennis

  9. Congratulations!! Such exciting news - here's wishing a happy healthy pregnancy! I love that drawing too, it's so adorable. <3

    Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you come back again next time. :)

  10. Congratulations! Such lovely news, and I love how you knew when you went off coffee! The first real sign for me both times was that my sense of smell went into overdrive. x #KCACOLS

  11. Awh congrats! I was 39 having my youngest, had the best pregnancy ever and I wish the same for you <3 #KCACOLS

  12. This is such exciting news - congratulations! My eldest was 4 when I had the twins and he has always been and still is such a help with them! Good luck xx #thesatsesh

  13. Congratulations lovely, really pleased for you and excited to follow your journey! We are only a few weeks apart!

  14. Congrats on your pregnancy! I am so excited for you! Love that cute drawing.


  15. Congratulations! Lovely news whether expected or not! #KCACOLS


  16. Oh bless you! Huge congratulations lovely. So exciting. #KCACOLS

  17. Well massive congratulations! Lovely news and what a cute little drawing! #kcacols

  18. Congratulations! I'm a mum of three & the more the merrier I say! #KCACOLS