Expat, Nomad, Immigrant: Stories from Life Abroad - featuring Absolutely Prabulous

Welcome to my new guest post series which gives expats, nomads and immigrants a space to share their stories of life abroad and offers us a glimpse into their experiences.

The series launched with my own post, the story of how I ended up in Mexico all those years ago.  You can read it here:  Stories from Life Abroad - guest post series launch.  Last month's post was A Story of Ice and... Sun by Paola from The Elephant Mum

Each month there will be a new post by a different contributor.  They may or may not be bloggers, they could be from any country, living anywhere in the world as expats, immigrants or nomads.  The idea is to tell as wide a variety of stories and experiences of living abroad as possible, from many different viewpoints.

This series will keep running for as long as I continue to get contributions for it, so if you would like to take part, email me at mummyandthemexicans@gmail.com and I will be happy to send you the details.

Expat, Nomad, Immigrant: Stories From Life Abroad A Guest Post Series Featuring Absolutely Prabulous

This month's guest post is by the wonderful Prabs of Absolutely Prabulous.  
www.absolutelyprabulous.com is an award-winning blog, written by Prabs, a former London/Paris girl, now turned humorist, opinion-giver, observer, key-loser, housework avoider (it’s a long list) in Malta. Prabs writes about motherhood, marriage, Malta, midlife and anything she can get away with. Her greatest achievement is leaving the house with 3 kids (it’s ok, they’re all hers). Her biggest fear is running out of vodka & screwing up her kids (in that order). She's married to the luckiest man on earth (obviously).  Her best domestic tip is: wear sunglasses at home so you can’t see the mess. You can follow Absolutely Prabulous on FacebookInstagram and Twitter 

Expat, Nomad, Immigrant: Stories From Life Abroad A Guest Post Series Featuring Absolutely Prabulous

Can't Get Off The Island!

When the lovely Ruth of Mummy and the Mexicans, asked me to write something about expat life, I wasn’t sure what I’d come up with. I was also a bit worried about the potential tone/interpretation of my article. But as the Maltese say…mela

Am I an expat anymore? Technically we were when we left the UK with a then 14 month-old, only expecting to settle for three years before moving onto somewhere else(like so many others I’ve met over the years who thought the same thing). We’ve been here over 12 years so far…!  Like the characters in the TV series Lost we #CantGetOffTheIsland

It seems so many of us foreigners, as the Maltesers call anyone not born and brought up on this dusty island, get ‘stuck’ here.

Stuck on a strip of rock:
- 17 miles long, 9 miles wide that will never be cosmopolitan by sheer fact of being a small conservative island
- plagued with such bad drivers that by June 2017, there had already been as many road deaths as for the whole of 2016.
- with head-wrecking noise pollution from car hooting, endless fireworks, Wild West construction with no time limit etc
- where crimes seem to go uninvestigated and corruption is next level
- that is being destroyed by buildings on every last inch of space, even in the  protected zones
- where the overriding culture is not based on respect, manners or courtesy.

I sound like a whingeing ungrateful Brit abroad don’t I?

Expat, Nomad, Immigrant: Stories From Life Abroad A Guest Post Series Featuring Absolutely Prabulous

So why (and how) have Hubster and I stayed so long? In fact, why do SO many ‘foreigners’ (grrr…that word never gets easier to say) end up staying for years?

How have we ‘put up with’ the Mediterranean madness for this much time? (Hot-headed keyboard warriors, rest your hands…I say that with affection!)
Firstly and simplistically because nowhere is perfect or problem-free. If one hopes to find Utopia, one is in for a whole heap of disappointment.
Then, there are specific compelling reasons not to come back to the UK/move somewhere else (did I really just say that?):

The Sun, Sea, Sand Lifestyle is Addictive!

Due to the incredible weather, the lifestyle here is an outdoors one. The phrase ‘weather permitting’ means ‘if it’s not too frickin hot’ not ‘if it’s not freezing and chucking it down’.  Winter al fresco dining is perfectly normal and the beach is fab in Autumn.
We live a short walk from the sea; it’s the backdrop to our life. Right off our doorstep, you can go for a coastal run, swim, snorkel, hunt for crabs, laze on the sand, eat at the beachside restaurant while watching the stunning waves (that you can hear from our house on certain days). If you’re more of a land lover, you can head up the hill through farmland for a hike through the traditional village where you see beautiful houses of character and villas. The whole package is a huge attraction for two people who grew up in a regular Indian family setting with nothing of the sort.

A former city lover who lived and worked in London and Paris (and grew up terrified of water), I have no wish to return to the urban life and am now never far from the sea or happier than when I’m in it. I’m writing this from one of my adopted offices, the beach club where my kids and I do Summer swim camp. Hubster now leaves work early twice a week to walk down (no tortuous train or car journeys) and join us for a swim, drink etc. It’s a simple unlavish life (this is no modern first world country) and yes I do miss my beloved London town, the the British countryside and so much more but it would take a lot to make me leave the lazy crazy Med!

Cost of Living

Our relatives visit Malta less often now as they feel it’s become less affordable since joining the euro and I also know people who left this little rock for the same reason.  Property (although significantly lower cost than UK housing), utilities and products are not cheap, yet you can still live well for less (and a girls’ night doesn’t set me back more than 35 quid for everything!). I do miss the range and breadth of UK goods and amenities but if I’m honest our lifestyle was pretty modest there because a lot of what was available was too pricey. Whilst we don’t live in a plush palace in Malta, our well-sized 4 bedroom, 3 bathroom coastal abode is a major step up from what we had in the UK.

Expat, Nomad, Immigrant: Stories From Life Abroad A Guest Post Series Featuring Absolutely Prabulous


Malta has one of the most favourable tax statuses of anywhere in the world. It’s the reason why so many people who leave for bigger modern countries return. This little rock may be old-fashioned/undeveloped but the taxes are hard to beat!


The crime rate of other countries is unknown here. It’s totally common to see kids out of their parents’ view at a playground, alone in a shop (like it used to be in the UK) and on the beach with no adult etc. Childhood lasts longer here; again the outdoor lifestyle helps as there are inexpensive ways to have fun without having to pay ticket entry or pile into a cafe.


This will change once Brexit is enforced and we’ll no longer enjoy the privileges of free hospital care that we currently do as Brits. Seeing a specialist costs around 30 British pounds though so that helps.


Sorry but this is one of the things I can’t cope with when I visit the UK. The cost of going anywhere via public transport makes my hair fall out and the fricking congestion charge and parking drives me insane. Meanwhile, back in Malta, parking on a yellow while you hop out to grab some milk or parking legitimately for free (we don’t have parking metres) is the norm. Even if you use a paying car park, it’s subsidised if you use the attached supermarket/restaurant etc.


English is widely spoken and you can get by without Maltese (although now we’ve stayed so long, perhaps we got it wrong re our kids not learning the local language in terms of respect/integration).

 Expat, Nomad, Immigrant: Stories From Life Abroad A Guest Post Series Featuring Absolutely Prabulous

Easy Come Easy Go

How many times have I forgotten my wallet only to be allowed to take items and go back at a later date to pay? Countless. We’ve even eaten out as a family and urged the proprietor to at least take our details and been told ‘Mela, I trust you’!

Just Life

As I said in Where is Home? despite the ‘three year max plan’, two more kids came along, they started school, we bought property… It just gets harder to leave. I’ve seen numerous people relocate every two years and the impact on the kids is huge. I’m a nomad; I’d gladly pack up and regularly move onto a new adventure just like a ‘real’ expat – and I know kids are resilient - but my kids love their life here and I’m not sure I have it in me to tear them away from it.

Are There Any Reasons to Give Up This Life and Return to the UK?

Expat, Nomad, Immigrant: Stories From Life Abroad A Guest Post Series Featuring Absolutely Prabulous

Yes! Again, going with the most simplistic one: family and friends. It’s hard not seeing one’s kids grow up in the bosom of a close network of grandparents, cousins etc. And while I love my friends in Malta, the ones I know from back home are special. And again, there are other reasons:

Malta is Insular

The chauvinistic and rather regressive way of thinking can be disheartening. Maltese nationals who’ve emigrated often say this is why they left. I’ve never been more aware of the island mentality than when I wrote one of my most viewed (and unintentionally controversial) articles Dear Malta, You're Breaking my Heart .  The uproar it caused (a government minister actually tried to get information on me) but also the number of people who came out in support, was eye-opening. You need steel cajones to talk publicly about Malta; I guess most people are protective towards their country of birth but I’ve honestly never encountered amore patriotic (often in an irrational way) or defensive nationality in my life (and I’ve lived in France!).
Not only does it get you down on a human level, it is frankly a concern if you are trying to raise your kids as considerate global citizens.

Due to Its Small Size, There is Limited Scope

You literally cannot compare the range of employment opportunities available on a small second-world island to those in a developed country such as the UK. For obvious reasons, jobs are scarce and career progression and opportunities can feel like a non-starter.

 Expat, Nomad, Immigrant: Stories From Life Abroad A Guest Post Series Featuring Absolutely Prabulous


Assuming we haven’t totally ruined ourselves with school fees by then, I want my kids to have a British university education. I guess it’s what I know.


My heart sinks as my blood pressure simultaneously rises just typing that. I’m anxious over our future as we don’t know what will be agreed regarding British citizens currently residing in EU countries. I’m bereft that the once mighty British passport is now almost worthless. My whole adult life, I’ve enjoyed the advantages of a UK in the EU; I don’t know a life without that. I’m not a political animal so I can’t go into the rationale of why it didn’t benefit the UK to stay in, as widely propounded by many. What I do know is that life may become untenable for Brits living abroad.

Why Will We Not Move Back to the UK Any Time Soon?

Expat, Nomad, Immigrant: Stories From Life Abroad A Guest Post Series Featuring Absolutely Prabulous

The Man From Delmonte…He Says No!

Don’t shoot the messenger here (!) but to my shock and disbelief, Hubster says  he wouldn’t willingly move back to the UK. This is beyond my comprehension as it’s usually human nature to have an affinity with the country you grew up in. I love Blighty. Whilst I was happy to leave as I don’t want to live in the same country all my life, I am so proud to be British and despite my feelings about lifestyle, cost etc, I love going back. (Rumour has it: photos exist of me grinning like an excited tourist in front of a red bus/Buck House from our UK visits but I can’t confirm that.) I also love Londoners and tire of hearing that they are miserable and unhelpful. Every time I come back, this is not my experience.
But this life of turquoise waters, six months of flip flops, hot balmy nights and ice cream smiles…#NotReadyToGiveItUp

Two Epiphanies that Crystallised it All

A year after we arrived in Malta, I bumped into someone who’d shown us some properties at the start. She asked how we were settling in, well aware that some expats don’t last long. For this former city chick who had spent a year whingeing, the answer that came out was an unexpected turning point. Until that chance meeting at the supermarket deli counter (!) I hadn’t realised:

Once you stop obsessing over what Malta doesn’t have and start focussing on what it does have, life gets so much better.

More recently, some UK friends expressed their amazement we’re still here and asked when we’re coming back. How strange of people to just assume we plan to return we both thought!
This time Hubster came out with a response that is the most astute analysis of our (and most Malta expats’) situation I’ve heard:

“Malta may not have everything. But when you look at that world map and start making the list of countries that have all your ‘must haves’ (English language education, weather, safety, taxes, enjoyable easy lifestyle, healthcare etc), do you know how many countries are on that list?”

Yep. One little island south of Italy, west of Greece, just above Africa.

Starts with M, ends in A.

I live there.


Expat, Nomad, Immigrant: Stories From Life Abroad A Guest Post Series Featuring Absolutely Prabulous

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  1. I don't think I could live abroad, but one day I'd love a holiday home in Greece #KCACOLS

  2. We had a week in Malta - it wasn't enough. I really enjoyed what I saw tho. I wish we'd done it differently though. I guess living somewhere is so different to visiting #KCACOLS

  3. I would love the experience of living abroad only if it's a sojourn. I would want to go back to my home country eventually.


  4. the only thing i remember of malta was getting awful food poisoning when i was younger. put me off for life lol. it does sound like you're loving it though - can't believe the government minister looked you up after your post went viral! it must have ignited something! #KCACOLS

  5. What a great write up! Sounds like the pro's are greater than the cons! I would love to visit some day. I would do well with the salt and sand life! #kcacols

  6. This series is so interesting! I've never had much of an explorer mentality so it's really fascinating to hear other people's pros and cons of upping roots. #KCACOLS

  7. Really fascinating to hear why people move from one place to another and what makes them stay / decide to return. Hope they do manage to get something together for citizens post-Brexit so you don't have to relocate

  8. It looks like Malta has more pros than cons for you. I love to travel but I don't think I could live abroad #KCACOLS

  9. I would love to be able to move somewhere like this, I think it will forever be a dream though lol.

  10. A really interesting read, we're constantly thinking about leaving the UK and moving to the sun so it's great to read about others who ahve done it successfully #KCACOLS

  11. I would move to the sun, sea and sand tomorrow if I had the chance...maybe one day! #KCACOLS

  12. I love the idea of moving abroad but I don't think it is something I would ever do myself. I do want to visit Malta now though! #kcacols

  13. Oh wow! I really enjoyed reading this post! I learned so much and I love Prabs style of writing. It's like she's in the room talking to me. I'm sure I've read some of her stuff before but I'll defo be looking her up once I hit publish



    1. I love her writing, she can be both funny and moving at the same time!

  14. what an interesting idea for a series. I've never really been anywhere but up and down the Eastern coast of the US and a few islands in the Med. The idea of pulling up all roots and moving to a different country takes more courage than I have. #KCACOLS

  15. This is a great series. So interesting and I loved reading this. Learned so much! Photos are so stunning. #KCACOLS

  16. Great idea for a series! Will be interested to read more stories. Great post from Prabs, Malta sounds amazing. #KCACOLS

  17. Wow, easy come easy go... can't imagine that ever happening in the UK! I'm not sure about the heat though. #kcacols

  18. Honestly I would so love to live abroad (France though, not necessarily South near the Med), you're making me so jealous! #KCACOLS

  19. Can I come and visit you please? :D The easy going but very active lifestyle here is amazing and GREAT photos! Loved the post #KCACOLS

  20. I lived abroad for a couple of years and loved it when I was in my 30's, that was before kids though!! I would like to spend a good chunk of time abroad and it is still something that just could happen even though my boys are getting bigger.

  21. Sounds like you have a wonderful life there. I think I would get hung up on the things that aren't there, like I do when we go over to Italy but I suppose you just get used to it and living by the sea is a dream #KCACOLS

  22. I've lived in Spain & Japan and stayed in both places longer than intended - it just seems to happen! #KCACOLS

    1. I certainly stayed a lot longer than I'd originally intended - 14 years longer! It does just seem to happen.

  23. #thesatsesh what a great idea for a series - I think there are so many good points raised but I'm jealous of the 300 plus days of sun so am consumed in my own rain cloud of doom (fridgesays)

  24. I love reading Prabs' posts and this is fabulous! So informative about reasons for making a move and remaining away from the UK - very compelling reasons too! The outdoors life and beach sound enviable - I like the balance to the post too. #thesatsesh xx

  25. I think Prabs may have convinced me we need to move to Malta? What a great post and series! Thank you! #thesatsesh xoxo

  26. Ruth, I love reading Brit expat stories, even though I'm US-born and have never lived anyplace else.

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