Sunday, 19 March 2017

3 Thoughts for my Three-Year-Old

My darling daughter,


You've just turned three, a milestone I can't believe you've already reached. It is a cliche, but three years have flown by at the speed of light, it seems, each year faster than the last.


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Three years ago you were a tiny newborn, and we were clueless first-time parents who hardly knew what to do with you. 
Two years ago you were crawling around, holding on to the furniture to stand up and preparing to take your first tottering steps. 
One year ago you were a chattering two-year-old, starting to speak in a mixture of two languages.
Now here you are, growing so tall, so beautiful, the keeper of the best cuddles in the world.  You surprise us with your own points of view and your achievements, doing more things on your own. My heart is full of wonder and pride when I look at you, but also fears and worries for the future. So here are my three thoughts, three qualities that I hope I can transmit to you and inculcate in you as you
grow because I think these three things are really all the tools you need to stand you in good stead for the future.


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Three thoughts for my three year old.

Love

Love is the foundation of everything.  Most importantly, love yourself.  If you love yourself then you
will be capable of loving others, loving your life, loving what you do, loving the world you  live in.  This love will become your guiding principle; it will tell you what is right and wrong and how to live your life.

You know that you are loved deeply and unconditionally; you are our most precious treasure and we love you no matter what.  I hope you can grow up with the knowledge of this love secure in your heart, something constant and unchanging to give you strength when you need it.  I hope you will transmit your love through your actions, doing what's best for you, taking care of the those you love, taking care of the world you love, living the best life you can.

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Strength

Your first name, Emma, means "strong woman"; I love that about your name.  I'm always telling you how strong you are when you pick up or move a heavy object, but here it has a different meaning.

Strength means "resilience"
In life there will always be problems, setbacks, disasters, pain, loss, failure; these things are inevitable.  Hopefully you will be lucky and your problems will be small, but there's no way 
of knowing.  What you will be able to count on is your own inner strength that will enable you to overcome difficulties, bounce back from troubles and find your happiness and self worth.

Strength means "confidence"

Be who you are and who you want to be no matter what other people may tell you.  There is so much pressure from society, media and our own perceptions.  Sometimes our own insecurities try to stifle us.  So have confidence in yourself, have the strength to stay true to your beliefs and principles, to fight for what's right, to be yourself and do what you want to do, even if that means taking a risk, being different, being a lone voice.  It may be scary, but be brave if you know you are doing the right thing.

Strength means "perseverance"

Don't give up!  Set your goals and find a way to achieve the things you want.  Don't let your own doubts and fears stop you from going after your dreams.  Don't let others dissuade you from something that is important to you.  Don't let failure put you off; keep trying and trying and you'll eventually succeed if you stick with it long enough.

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Wisdom

I don't mean intelligence, although that helps.  For me, wisdom means making good decisions.  It sounds simple, but it isn't always easy.  It is one of the keys, however, to a happy and successful life.  Some decisions seem small and insignificant but can have a big impact; putting on your seatbelt, studying for an exam, deciding not to react negatively to provocation, being nice to someone.  All these decisions could have just as important an effect as apparently bigger, life-changing decisions.  

Choose the people you spend time with, the people who will influence you.  They are important, make sure they give you something positive.  Sorry you can't choose your family, but you can decide how to interact with them, how much you let them influence you or not.

Make your decisions wisely, but also don't worry too much about making mistakes - just have the wisdom to learn from them and not repeat the same mistakes over and over again.  Know that when something goes wrong it's not the end of the world, there is always a solution.  Wisdom is also knowing how to put things right and learning from the experience.




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To end with, I want to give you one of my favourite quotes ever.  Success is often seen as being based on material things: career, money, possessions, but I think Maya Angelou's definition of success is just perfect.  It's also a definition of happiness, in my opinion; here the two go hand in hand.


"Success is liking yourself, liking what you do and liking how you do it."



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All my love,

Your Mummy xx 

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14 comments:

  1. Such a lovely post. My girl is turning 3 at the end of April and it would be so nice if she could have all of these quaities too. beautiful! Happy Birthday beautiful! xx #kcacols

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    1. Thank you! If everyone had these three qualities I think the world would be a much better place!

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  2. A lovely post and I will be saving that quote, because that's just it isn't it-little can be achieved when we don't love ourselves. #postsfromtheheart

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  3. So lovely. They change so fast and amaze us every day #KCACOLS

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  4. This is such a beautiful post. I imagine we all wish the same for our children. My little girl is 3 in August and I definitely wish these for her and my almost 8yr old son too x
    #CandidCuddles

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  5. What a beautiful post, these are some important things indeed! I never knew that her name had the meaning "strong woman", that's wonderful. I adore the photo of her with the rabbit too :) #PostsFromTheHeart

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  6. Sounds like you a raising a strong, confident and independent little lady there. Happy Birthday little miss.

    #KCACOLS

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  7. that quote should be published and shown everywhere. so so true #KCACOLS

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  8. So lovely! And what a brilliant quote, I've not read that one before, but I love it! x #CandidCuddles

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  9. How quick do they grow ? It's like they are standing in compost. Lovely post and wise words from Maya Angelou #postsfromtheheart

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  10. What a beautiful post for your daughter's birthday! 3 really is a milestone age, they have gotten so grown up & are over all of the baby things at that stage. I love your advice about love & wisdom & strength! Happy birthday, Emma! Thank you for sharing your quote with us at #candidcuddles xx

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  11. Such a sweet post! I remember (& miss) when my boys were this age. It is truly a fun and magical time. Enjoy every second of it.

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  12. This is a really beautiful post :) my daughter recently turned two and it does fly by!
    Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you come back again next Sunday

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  13. Such a gorgeous post. I remember Zach turning three and it felt momentous. He's four and a half now...I don't understand how that happened!! Thanks for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday

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