Monday, 27 July 2015

Goodbye, dummy

I don't remember how long it's been since Emma stopped using a dummy*; three weeks, a month or maybe more.  I didn't notice when the last time was, it slipped by when we weren't paying attention.

* otherwise known as a pacifier or soother.


Goodbye, dummy!

So let's make it official now.  Tonight Emma woke up crying shortly after going to bed and when I picked her up to comfort her she was still inconsolable, more asleep than awake, so I thought maybe the dummy would help soothe her.  I put it up to her mouth, but no, she turned her face away and wasn't having any of it.  Dummy cast aside, I just kept cuddling and rocking her until she calmed down and fell asleep again.

The last few times I tried to give her the dummy she also rejected it, so I think that's pretty decisive: we don't need it anymore.  As simple as that!  Her decision, not mine.

Well, I had stopped giving her the dummy during the daytime except sometimes for her afternoon nap, but she'd been using it at night to get to sleep and soothe her if she woke up.  Then I guess I just stopped offering her the dummy, I don't remember exactly.  Perhaps it was when we moved house, a change in routine, my mother-in-law not being here for a while... Perhaps we just forgot about it.  She didn't seem to need it, anyway.

In fact, before she was born I never intended for her to have a dummy and I didn't buy any of her dummies - they were all given to her by relatives.  I don't think I or my sisters ever used them when we were babies and people warned me against them, saying we would end up having to pay a fortune in dental treatment for Emma when she was older.

However, when she was a month old, I gave in to pressure - "It'll help her get to sleep, more easily, it'll make your life easier" (yes, it probably did),  "It'll calm her during bathtime" (not really, it mostly got in the way and fell into the bath!), etc.  One of Emma's great-aunts had bought her two dummies, so we started using them.

Was that a right or wrong decision?  I don't think it matters that much, it's just not that big a deal.  Emma used a dummy for just over a year, she became quite dependent on it for a while, then we started reducing her use of until she just wasn't interested in it anymore.  Some babies use dummies for longer, others not at all.  Hopefully, it hasn't adversely affected her teeth (she now has seven; four up and three down).  I'm not aware of any other "side effects".

It was just a phase which, I think it's safe to say, is now over.

Do you have an opinion about dummies?  What have your experiences been with them?  I'd be interested to hear them!



The Twinkle Diaries

12 comments:

  1. I wish Eva would give hers up. I never gave her one until she was 9 months old and I stopped breastfeeding. She has it at night and when she needs comforting but she is now 2 so it really needs to go and she won't give it up. You're very lucky yours just decided against it.
    Kerry x
    #TwinklyTuesday

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    1. I was worried at first that it would be a struggle to get her to give up the dummy, but it turned out not to be a problem in the end. Good luck with Eva!

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  2. Wishing you every luck without the dummy, mine never used them, they just spat them out and wailed! #TwinklyTuesday

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    1. It's probably best never to have used them. So far we're managing fine without the dummy! Thanks for the comment!

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  3. I was determined to never use them, but did give them to eldest after a couple of months (so as not to interfere with establishing breastfeeding). She used them for sleep & occasionally for day soothing when young, though never that often if she wasn't asleep. We stopped letting her have them to calm upsets when awake at about 6 months & made them for bedtime & naps only. She still has it at 2, purely for getting to sleep. We have tried to take a couple of times, but it disrupts her sleep. As she literally only uses them to get herself to sleep & then drops, we've decided for now to see if she drops it in her own time. Youngest has never used them at all.

    It's great when they just give things up for themselves, isn't it?

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    1. Yes, I was quite relieved when she just didn't seem to want the dummy anymore! Thanks for commenting!

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  4. My kids never used the dummy mainly because i didn't encouraged it. Also i tried giving it to my kids when hey would cry and they just spit it right out. So i was lucky. Good luck..!

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    1. I think that's best and saves problems later. Thanks for your comment!

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  5. We never used them at all! I tried — as my sister had given me a couple — but the boys never took to them. Probably a good job too!! One less thing to worry about losing/keeping clean! Thanks so much for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday — hope to see you again next week! x

    Caro | www.thetwinklediaries.co.uk

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    1. Yes, keeping them clean and off the floor is a pain! Thanks for hosting!

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  6. My first refused his from 6 months and my second hasn't really got on with them. It's easier when its their decision well done! #TwinklyTuesday

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    1. Definitely easier! Thank you for visiting!

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